28. desember 2009

How to Question in Coaching

The use of questions is the most effective tool in a coach's toolbox.

I like to use the analogy of the 'zoom' function, which you can find on any photo-editing program or on Google Earth, when describing the use of questions.

For example, a client might explain a situation in vague and general terms. I can then 'zoom-in' using questions to get him/her to be more specific and concrete. I can also use questions to 'zoom-out' to get a better understanding of how his/her explanation fits into the context of the bigger picture.

ZOOM-IN

When people describe a situation there is the natural tendency to use rather general terms. The reason for this is that they have personally experienced the situation and have had time to integrate that expereince into their map of the world.

An experience can always be broken down into smaller components. The person who has had the experience has had plenty of time to integrate it. He/she generally does not recall the specific components of that experience, and simply recalls it as one, indivisable event.

Zoom-in questions are important for bringing details into the light of day where they can be examined and probed. Below are some examples of questions for zooming-in:
• can you elaborate on...?
• what do you mean by...?
• can you be more specific about...?

ZOOM-OUT

There is also the tendency for people to get lost in details. They get their heads so buried in the specifics that they no longer have a clear perspective of the situation. This can happen when people are stressed (negatively), feel overwhelmed or lose the sense of control. Simply stated, they only see the individual grass blade and not the lawn.

Zoom-out questions are important in order to help people gain perspective. When a person is able to see the bigger picture it helps them to be more solution-focused than problem-focused.

Helping people gain a birds-eye perspective on their situation puts their problem into context. When they can see how their situation fits into the overall map, people gain back the feeling of being in control and having oversight. In turn, reducing the amount of negative stress.

Examples of zoom-out questions:
• can you put this into context for me?
• how does this situation sit in relation to...?
• how does this fit into what you previously described to me?

The quality of question you ask will determine the quality of answer you receive.

- On the road with my iPhone

27. desember 2009

How to Coach

New Years is fast approaching and so is the desire for people to make resolutions.  As we all know, most resolutions will never see the light of day.  Those of us who have the fortitude to follow through with the changes begin to see positive changes soon enough.

Studies show that those of us who have a friend who work along with us to fulfil a resolution often do so with a greater chance of success.  Not only do we have an internal promise with ourselves to make the healthy change, we also have an external promise to another that drives us forward.  It is that external commitment that is the catalyst for change.  People generally find it very difficult to break a promise they've made to a friend.

If you are that friend who is helping a buddy to fulfil a resolution, perhaps the following tips can help make the job a little easier.

There are two spectrums I'll focus on.  The first is the Asking/Telling spectrum.  Your job in helping a friend is to get them to think about and commit to the change they want to make.  You can simply tell them what to do, because you've been down that particular road and know what curves and bends to expect. 

Telling  someone what to do can help to some extent, but it is not very effective.  The reason is that you are advising an action from your perspective and experience of the world.  The person you are advising has neither your perspective nor your particular experience of the world.  They may heed your advise and get positive results, but it will never be as effective if the person makes their own connections. 

Instead of telling someone it is always wiser for you to ask.  That is, ask people questions.  Let them find their own answers.  If they make the connections themselves, the lessons learned will be intergrated at a much deeper level, which will also increase the likelihood that change will take hold. 

You may have deep knowledge and experience in a certain area where a friend wishes to make changes.  You will most likely know a brilliant short-cut to get him/her to where they want to go.  You could simply tell them, but asking them will be more lasting.  Your knowledge and experience is the road map and allows you to design specific questions to focus your friend's attention in the right direction.  As they answer your questions they are following the correct road map, but they are drawing a road map from their own perspective.  It's a map that makes sense to your friend and which is unique to him/her.

The second spectrum is the problem/solution.  The focus on both the problem and solution have their own roles, but caution is still warrented. 

Focusing on the problem is important to understand how it is influencing a person in the here and now.  Both you and your friend need to clarify what it is that is preventing or hindering any movement forward.  Where the caution is needed is not tripping into the pitfall of digging too deep into why the problem is there in the first place.  What's done is done.  There is no going back.  We can not change the past and so there is no use in dragging up old pains.  It serves no purpose.

Once you and your friend understand where he/she stands in the present, then the focus should targeted on finding a solution.  When people start to talk about possibilities and actionables, this is a very motivating force.  It gives people the sense that they have control and oversight. 

An important factor to remember is to help the person paint a vivid and detailed picture in their minds of the solution.  If a person can see it, they can do it.  The opposite is also true - if a person can't picture something they can't do it.  It is that simple.  So when you are asking questions, whiche focus on the solution, try to get your friend to picture his/her way forward.

24. desember 2009

Changing a Habit

It is Christmas Eve and by Christmas morning most of us will have some regrets with the amount we've ingested, but never fully digested. We look down to out waistline and feel the weight of the extra tire.

With a heavy sigh we promise ourselves that come New Years we are going to change our ways by changing and quitting certain habits. We earnestly give it our all. Motivation is in full gear and our determination has never been greater.

For most of us, by months end we are back where we originally started out - back with an old habit and it's consequences. We ask ourselves why is it so damn hard to change a habit?

Basically, our brains can be wired very easily to do most anything. When it comes to unwiring, that is where the conundrum lies. It is nearly impossible to unwire something. That is, it is highly unlikely you can change a habit.

A habit is based on a pattern that has been repeated time and again. The more it is used the deeper the pattern becomes entrenched in the brain. A good analogy is to think about the Colardo river that cuts and snakes it's way through the Grand Canyon. There is a pattern of flow that can not be easily erased. It is a permanent feature in the landscape, as is a habit is a permanent feature in the brain's landscape.

The best strategy to changing a habit is to simply begin developing a new one. After some time using the new habit it will become more and more dominant where eventually it will become the primary habit. Then the initial habit will simply fall by the way side due to lack of use.

- On the road with my iPhone

22. desember 2009

A Sense of Vulnerability

I find one of the most important attributes when working with a lteam is to build a sense of vulnerability. What I specifically mean is that a team creates a working atmosphere where they can open up and ask for help when it's needed or to share a mistake when it happens.

For most teams, especially corporate, this tends to be completly counter intuitive. We are hard-wired to make decisions to avoid pain rather than gain pleasure. So to ask a group to, for example, ask for help or additional resources can be a challenging step.

Once a team is able to establish an environment where they know they won't be attacked or ridiculed a deeper and stronger relationship is established. This is key to establing stronger communication and information flow amongst team members.

People get over the hurdle of interpersonal discomfort and can directly speak without the person feeling he/she is being attacked. (Interpersonal discomfort is that feeling you have when you would rather not have to have the difficult conversation with someone in fear you might hurt or spoil the relationship).

By establishing a working environment where vulnerability is encouraged, people are more willing to give each other corrective/supportive feedback, confront each other's ideas and opinions, ask for resources or help and so on.

It takes time to build, but the investment is well worth it. I've seen it pay off time and again.

- On the road with my iPhone

21. desember 2009

Never, ever advise!

'We see the world as we are, and not as the world is. ' - Anaïs Nin

I admit that the title of this entry is a little over the top. Advice does come in handy, but we need to think about how and when we give advice. You may be a parent, a leader, a coach, a friend and so on. Regardless or your role or roles, I think this short entry is useful.

I want you to imagine that you and your significant other decided it was time to upgrade your computers. You make a jaunt down to the local GeeksRus and purchase two computers. They are completely identical software and hardware wise.

After a few months of use you one day forget your pc at the office. You borrow your significant other's. You find after only a few seconds that you cannot make heads or tails of rhe pc in front of you. Nothing is where it should be. It all seems so disorganized to you, but it makes complete sense to her or him.

This is an analogy that describes how each of our brains are wired. From a distance they look identical, but upon closer inspection each brain is completely unique.

Each of us has our own set of experiences and lessons learned that are unique to us. This forms a kInd of mental map, which influences how we each perceive and interact with the world. How each of us stores, encodes, organizes these lessons and experiences are also as indiviual as we are.

When it comes to us advising another person as to how to accomplish or tackle a situation, we are advising them from our perspective of the world. We are not taking into account their map of the world.

This is where a shift in thinking is needed. We may know from experience the best way to overcome an obstacle that is proven time and again to be effective. What we have to remember that we've had time to integrate this method into our map of the world. Someone confronting the same obstacle may be doing so for the first time. They have no map.

If we want to help them, it is best for us to allow them to connect the dots. So instead of advising we can ask well-engineered questions to help direct their thinking in the right direction.

Questions allow for the person to make the logical connections, and thus integrate the information into their mental map. An 'aha' moment usually soon follows. They see the light.

Questions that flow from the well of experience and knowledge is so much more valuable to a learner than straight-forward advise that flows from the same well.

- On the road with my iPhone

18. desember 2009

Resistence to Change

'Every beginning is a consequence. Every beginning ends something.' -Paul Valéry

Everyone, even if they are standing dead-still, is moving forward. There is nothing that can retard or divert this momentum. This constant state of forward movement means that we are continually faced with change.

Think of change as riding a bicycle. If we want to stay on the bike we need to keep peddling and continually make adjustments to the steering to avoid bumps and pot-holes in the road.

Change is something that happens to all of us. It is as unavoidable as taking your next breath (assuming that you have the desire to live). Some changes are so subtle that they don't register on our mental radar. Other changes, as we perceive them, are considered significant. It is when we are faced with these types of changes that we can discover resistence.

When you actually take a moment and examine the resistance you find it has very little to so with the change itself. Rather, the resistance has more to do with letting things go. Our identities become intertwined with the familiarity of our surroundings. Removing aspects of our lives that are so familiar to us leaves us with a sense of loss and vulnerability.

It is not so much about embracing the new beginning as it is with dealing with an ending. Change itself is usually external, structural and relatively straight-forward. The difficulty lies more with the psychological transition that we have to make from the old to the new. The reason it is difficult is because the transition requires us to make a identity shift. It is so important to have closure before we can move on.

If you know someone who is going through change whether personally or professionally, the first step is to help them with letting go and to come to some sense of closure. The best way to do this is to communicate clearly what the problem is and why it is necessary to change.

- On the road with my iPhone

22. november 2009

How to begin a Crucial Conversation

The next stage of a crucial conversation is to prepare your opening
statement. When spoken it should take no longer than a minute or two. You want to be clear, concise and succinct.

Before we jump into the step-by-step process of building your opening statement, I want to briefly warn you of a couple of the most common
pitfalls.

There can be a tendency to try to start off on a gentle foot when
starting a confrontational talk. We may start off by simply asking how
things are going or if everything is all right.

People are not stupid. They can see what's coming from a kilometer
away. The recipient of the message will see through the pathetic
attempt at soft talk. This can result in a diminishing of respect for
the communicator because he or she is not professional enough to get
to the heart of the matter.

By trying to soften the blow of the message we also run the risk of
diluting the seriousness of the conversation. I've seen managers dance
around the issue masking the message in corporate-speak and vague
generalities. The employee walks out of the meeting with a quizzical
look. You can easily see that he is thinking something along the lines
of, "what the hell was that all about?"

Another common approach to starting a difficult conversation is to go
in with all guns blazing, where the entire message is coated in anger.
In many instances, not much thought or preparation is done before
holding the talk. The message is delivered raw and unrefined.

In most cases, this simply adds more fuel to a burning situation. This
approach has the tendency to complicate matters, because the recipient
feels he or she is under attack.

The usual reason for this brashness is due to some form of anger. Most
of us try our best to avoid conflict and so the anger is usually to
mask one type of fear or another. These fears may include:

• the loss of a relationship
• could be on the receiving end of irrational emotions
• might hurt another's feelings
• could worsen the problem etc.

An important part of coaching people in conducting difficult
conversations is tackling their assumptions about conflict. If you can
help your client or employee to rewire his/her typical
belief that conflict is negative to one where they can a the
advantages of conflict, than your client is half way there.

I can not emphasize enough the fact that conducting difficult
conversations is a key-skill for coaches and managers. It is crucial
to remember to keep such conversations in dialogue and not slip into
debate.

In my next post, I will explain the step-by-step approach to
constructing the all-important opening statement.

19. november 2009

Challenging Conversations 2

The preparation you do for a crucial conversation is half the work,
and part of that work is knowing precisely what you want to address. This includes CPR (content, pattern or relationship). That is, the behavior your addressing may be a single event, a multiple event or a chronic problem.

If it is a single event then you are going to want to give feedback on the content. For example, "Jon, I want to talk to speak to you about your interaction with your colleagues in the meeting this morning. I feel, as did the others, that you responded in an overly aggresive manner..."

If it is a situation that has happened more than once, than it will be
a pattern of behavior you will need to address.

For example, "Jon, I need to talk to you about your aggresive
responses in the staff meeting. I've already addressed this particular
behavior twice with you..."

If it is a behavior that constantly and consistently shows up then it
can be catagorized as something that is starting to affect the
relationship.

For example, "Jon, I need to address the aggresive style you take
during staff meetings. We've had this talk several times now and each
time you've promised you would take a more diplomatic tone. I feel
this behavior is starting to affect our working relationship..."

Although in each of the three examples the same behavior is being
addressed, it's the consequences that differs in focus. The
significance and the seriousness takes a step up.

17. november 2009

Challenging Conversations

The first step to approaching any type of crucial conversation is the preperation. I compare preparing for a difficult conversation to that of preparing for an important negotiation. In both cases it is highly recommended not to simply wing-it.

There are two fundamental questions you should ask yourself. The first: what is the purpose for having the dialogue? The second: what, exactly, is the problem I want to address?

The first question is important, because it focuses you to think about
the reason you need to have the conversation. That is, to become fully
aware of your intent.

You may discover that your intent is to punish, humiliate or blame.
These are natural feelings most of us initially feel if we believe the
others persons action or behavior was deliberate, spiteful or simply
mean-spirited.

The idea of a crucial conversation is to be constructive and not
destructive, which would be the result if the intent it to get back at
the other person.

The intent should be a genuine and sincere effort to help move the
person forward.

The second question: what, exactly, is the problem you want to
address? You should be able to specify the problem with only a few
sentences.

It is important to be specific, descriptive and concrete by keeping to
the facts. In addition, use a recent example to illustrate the problem
that you are bringing up. Remember it should be based on an observable
behavior. That is, something you can see or hear.

Before ending today's entry I would like to bring to your attention
the difference between dispositional and situational views on behavior.

We tend to view other people's behavior from a dispositional view
point. We tend to place blame on the personality flaws of the person
and tend to ignore any environmental influences. We tend to do this
because we see a person's actions much more readily than we so the
forces behind it.

We tend to see ourselves from a situational point of view. It is clear
to us what environmental forces contributed to our challenge.

When we are preparing for a crucial conversation it is necesarry for
us to be aware of the dispositional and situational factors.

26. oktober 2009

What needs to be done to minimize misunderstanding in communication (and thereby avoid being dragged off by homeland security)?

What needs to be done to minimize misunderstanding in communication (and thereby avoid being dragged off by homeland security)?

I'm sitting here in the Newark airport waiting for a connection to
Houston. Going through the security is always a big ball of joy. This
time was no different, except for one little transgression with the
guy ahead of me in the queue.

Security asked him a few questions pertaining to his bag. With each
question the guy got more perturbed. I think it was question number
four that sent him into ballistic mode.

I won't go into the details of security rushing the guy and dragging
him off, which gladly brought a break from the monotony of standing in
line. What I will get into is the general and abstract nature of
language. If the communication between security and ballistic-man had
been clear, concise and concrete, I believe things could have ended
more civilly.

In social exchanges, conversations tend to be organic. That is, social
conversations can lead in any direction. There is no specific outcome
that is trying to be achieved. This does not apply to professional
conversations (or to airport security checks post-911). Conversations
in professional settings have specific outcomes.

Perhaps the purpose is to give corrective/supportive feedback or to
negotiate a deal. Maybe it is to handle negative conflict and to
encourage constructive conflict. It might to run an effective group
meeting or a one2one where there needs to be a rhyme and reason to the gathering.

Whatever the nature of the professional dialogue the underlying skill
needed is the ability to move language from being abstract and general
to being concrete and specific. The more of the latter you can
communicate, the less of a chance there will be for misunderstanding
or miscommunicaton.

Corporations invest time, money and energy to build clear
organizational lines, functional tools and useful technology and so
on. Nonetheless, there is the constant challenge of poor communication
between people.

A majority of problems simply comes from having different
interpretations of what is communicated. What needs to be invested
alongside the above mentioned, is to teach people to be crystal
clear in their message. From my experience, if a team, a department,
or a company does this there huge gains to be reaped.
  
This is not a light-switch solution. That is, flick the switch and everything is honky-dory. Rather it is a process that requires constant vigilance to being as specific and concrete as possible.

Hopefully, I'll learn from my own words and won't be the next guy who
is tackled and dragged off to the dark recesses of airport security.

Cordially
Jason W Birkevold Liem
phone: (+47) 957 66 460
email: MINDtalk@email.com
web: www.MINDtalk.no
blog: www.jasonliem.blogspot.com
twitter: www.twitter.com/mindtalkcoach

24. oktober 2009

Should President Obama receive the Nobel Peace Prize?


I find myself sitting in a cafe in downtown Oslo only a stone's throw
distance where President Obama will receive the Nobel Peace Prize.
I'm waiting on a friend to move on to grab a bit to eat and then we
will plunge into the pulsating night.

It will be in mid December when Obama graces the Viking city of the
Norsemen. I have a problem with that. If it was October 23rd 2010,
there would be no problem. The fact is that it is 2009.
Let me elaborate. The Nobel Peace Prize is given to those who
accomplish three requirements set out my Alfred Nobel.

Unfortunately, Obama does not meet these requirements. The guy has
accomplished much in 10 months, more than most presidents do in their
entire term. Regardless, he has not met the requirements to receive
the honour of the Nobel. It clearly states that the prize should go to whoever "shall have done the most or the best work for fraternity between nations, for the abolition or reduction of standing armies and for the holding and promotion of peace congresses".

No fault lies with Obama. None at all. It lies completely on the
shoulders of the Nobel Institute in Oslo. What real choice did Obama
actually have? It must be very difficult, if not close to impossible,
to turn down such a prize. It's not like finding the prize at the
bottom of a Cracker Jack box.

Obama was put into a very awkward position and he made the best of that
situation. As I understand it, the Nobel is given in recognition of having done something. The operative word is 'done' and in the past tense. It is based on having established a brilliant track record of pushing humanity in a positive, forward direction.

There is so many other people who deserved the recognition this year.
So many other organizations or causes who could have done so much
with the publicity and the financial rewards that come with the prize.

Ok....I'll get off my soap box.  I just had the need to vent.

Cordially
Jason W Birkevold Liem
phone: (+47) 957 66 460
email: MINDtalk@email.com
web: www.MINDtalk.no
blog: www.jasonliem.blogspot.com
twitter: www.twitter.com/mindtalkcoach

22. oktober 2009

What are some effective approaches in dealing with stress?

What are some effective approaches in dealing with stress?

Stress is completely an internal phenomenon. As far and wide a person
wishes to search the external world, he will never find stress. He
will able to find stressors, the triggers of stress. This he can do
with out expending too much effort, but he'll never find stress.

The important question is how to deal with this slow-killer? The
strategies I write about here are not quick fixes. They are common
sense that requires a person to take responsibility and action.

The first it to take care of the machine and the machine will take
care of you. The answer is not rocket science. Train well. Eat well.
Live well.

Stress triggers the release of stress hormones such as adrenaline.
Long after the stress situation may have disappaited, the adrenaline
hasn't. It's still swimming around in the blood stream straining and
wearing internal systems.

Working up a good sweat and oxyginating the body is the best way to
rid yourself of stress hormones. I personally find running 7 to 8
clicks, 3 to 4-times a week does my body and brain good.

Running might not be your thing. If you want to deal with your stress,
I highly recommend finding your 'thing' and do it. Love what you do
and it'll pay off big time.

The next thing is what you ingest nutirition-wise. Fresh vegetables
and fruit. Fish and cereals. Red wine and dark choclates. It's really
quite straight forward. Calories in and calories burned. Simply put,
it's about the numbers.

Ok. I agree this may be a little too black and white. But to be quite
frank, there is not a lot of gray between the two.

The next strategy is to catch enough Zs. Sleep is so important. This
is a chance for mind and body to download and recharge.

How well does your cell or Mac work if it is not charged? The same
logic can be applied to your bio-machine. The body only needs three
hours, but the mind needs between 7 to 8 to be fully functional.
Again, it's all about mathematics.

In the next post, I will continue with the next two strategies, which
require a little more work. The first is your self-talk. The second is
how you personally define what is important.


Cordially

Jason W Birkevold Liem
phone: (+47) 957 66 460
email: MINDtalk@email.com
web: www.MINDtalk.no
blog: www.jasonliem.blogspot.com
twitter: www.twitter.com/mindtalkcoach

17. oktober 2009

Twitter & Coaching - Part II

Twitter is simply a brilliant tool.  It allows me to connect in real-time with the community that I'm tapped into.  As of this moment, I'm directly connected to 309 people who contribute with tweets that I find absorbing and relevant to my interests.

One of my goals was to build a community of Tweeters that had similar interests to me (some of those interests I stated in my previous post).  I've kept to this decision from day-one.  Perhaps if I was not so choosy I might have had double the amount of followers as I do today, but that would have meant I accepted everybody.

Unfortunately, Twitter is no different from the rest of the internet.  It, too, is filled with a lot of useless static and distractions.  I felt if I wanted Twitter to be interesting, fun and practical I needed to be selective.  Like most things I've found in life, quality of community takes time to build.  You need to invest time and contribute effort to get a decent ROI.

This is a great site to learn more about the 'hows' of Twitter and tweeting. http://www.ehow.com/how_4670029_tweet-twitter.html

13. oktober 2009

Twitter and Coaching - Part 1


It was about 18 months ago when I really began to pay any attention to Twitter. At first, I thought it was just the flavour of the month and it would be replaced by the next cool tool. The reason I believed this is when I jumped on and saw that people were tweeting about mundane things they were doing at that moment. I decided to jump offthe tweet train and look for other social media outlets to get my fix.

It was about eight months ago that I was reading an interesting blog called Six Pixels of Separation by Mitch Joel ( http://www.twistimage.com/blog/ ) where Twitter flashed up in my mental radar again. I sighed in exasperation remembering my last encounter with Twitter.

Although I managed to expel every hint of oxygen in the world's
longest sigh, I continued to read the blog. Somewhere in the middle of
the entry, Joel referred to Tweeting as micro-blogging. Bing!, went
the mental blip on my radar.

I know this connection of Tweeter and micro-blogging is a given for 
everybody else on the Planet of Social Media, but for me I honestly
never connected the dots. It was a mind- blowing revelation.
(Reader, please allow room for a little exaggeration).

After finishing reading the post, I immediately jumped back on to
Twitter and opened my shiny new account - @MINDtalkCoach. I got
back on the Tweeter train again to give it a second chance. I was not
disapointed this time around.  The train ride has been, and still is, fun.

What I discovered was relevant, stimulating, intriguing content. It was not some guy telling me he was sitting on the can or someone else who was cleaning their cat's fur ball off the new carpet. Instead, there was a whole community out there with similar interests about coaching, communication, psychology, business, social media, entrepreneurship and tonnes of geek-stuff.

I praised the social media Gods for my enlightenment, and as of six
months ago I've been using Tweeter to my advantage. I'll get more I to
those advantages in my next post.

For now, if you are in the knowledge industry and you've been thinking more about the different roads of social media, don't ponder too long about Twitter.  Join and reap the benefits of the network you will build.

Cordially
Jason W Birkevold Liem
phone: (+47) 957 66 460
email: MINDtalk@email.com
web: www.MINDtalk.no
blog: www.jasonliem.blogspot.com
twitter: www.twitter.com/mindtalkcoach

11. oktober 2009

Look forward. There is no turning back.


I went to the Paleontology museum with my son today.  Everywhere we turned there were the massive skeletal remains of dinosaurs.  Even though these enourmous structures of biology stood in front of me, it was still hard to wrap my head around the fact that these animals walked the same Earth millions of years ago.

Of course, I had seen dinosaur exhibits before, but today I was just as awe-struck as if it was the first time.  I watched my little boy run from one dinosaur to the next with all the excitement bursting out of his body.  "Look papa look!"  "See how big that one is?"  "I have that one at home!" (referring to his little plastic toys).

Sitting here this evening pondering what I want to blog about, I find that dinosaurs are rumbling through my head.  As I think about dinosaurs my mind is jumping to the past, and as the mind is with associations, I am thinking about my past.

I have had 40 years of experiences that have shaped the man I am today.  Most of those experiences have been brilliant.  I also have a collection of experiences I've gained by graduating from the school of hard knocks.  I've been knocked down, thrown about and gutted by some of these experiences.  Although they wounded me, they have also shaped me, strengthened me and made me appreciate what I have and who I am.

When coaching or counseling clients (depending on the skill-set needed for that session), I find it crucial to get the client to keep her head up and looking toward the horizon.  It is so easy, especially when we are stressed and strained, for us to look down.  We get lost in the noise of the moment and the dust that is kicked up by a problem.

When the mind is troubled with a problem or stressed with a situation, it tends to shift into default.  Default for the mind is stewing up negative thoughts.  It seems to want to look for something to worry about even if there is nothing to fret over.

By keeping my client to looking forward, it keeps her attentive on looking for solutions and open doors.  Of course, sometimes a client feels she needs to rummage around in her past.  I personally find that it is best to try to limit this mental exercise.

One way to do this is to ask how a past experience is affecting there life in the here and now.  I want to help them change or modify the beliefs they established in the past and are now hindering them in the present. This approach keeps a client's mind in the present, where they can actually affect change.

There is no need to ask a client to relive an awful or traumatic moment. I truly believe asking someone to dive into their past and dig up old traumas serves no purpose.  They can not change the past.  It is what it is.  The only thing they can change is how that experience and the associated beliefs affects them in the present.

I tell my client, " Look forward.  There is no turning back."

10. oktober 2009

Depression, Stress and Burn-out


This entry is a response to an article that I read in Aftenposten (a Norwegian newspaper) titled Hvorfor blir vi deprimert? (Why are we depressed?) dated 10 October 2009. http://www.aftenposten.no/nyheter/article3312984.ece

The journalist asked four experts (i.e. a psychologist, a psychiatrist, the Minister of Health and an adviser for mental health) in the area of depression about their thoughts as for the reasons why there is a growing degree of depression in Norway.  The answers given were varied and focused on different areas of society.  The subject of depression is something that can not be fully addressed in a newspaper article, or for that fact, a series of articles.  What it does though, is start a dialogue about an illness that plagues society at many different levels.

I feel the question posed by the article is a fundamental query that needs to be addressed.  There are people who believe that the accumulation of wealth and success brings happiness.  There are others that try to find happiness in mass religion, cults or esoteric gurus.  Then there are other who believe that getting married, having kids and settling down leads to the road to happiness.  There are millions of other ways people chase after happiness.  Some find it, but many more don't.

When a person fails to achieve some sense of happiness or when they do reach a level where they expect to find happiness, they often ask questions such as the following.  "Is this it?  This is what I've been struggling towards? There has got to be more?"

I work as a communication and executive coach in a broad range of industries and across different levels of management.  Depression rears it's ugly head amongst these ranks of working professionals, as it does anywhere else in society.  The severity and the cause of depression, are of course, as varied as are the people affected by it. 

If a person's expectations of what life is suppose to be like does not match with what their life actually is,  it leads people to feel unhappy. If these same people feel that there is nothing they can do to change their life or situation, this leads them to feel a sense of powerless or lack of control. The feeling of depression soon follows.

Realistically, a person has either two choices.  He can either change his life situation (i.e. job, significant other, residence, way of life etc.) or he has to change his expectations of what he believes life is suppose to be (i.e. his map of the world).

One of the best ways I have found to help people deal with their depression is through dialogue. They begin by finding words to describe abstract thoughts and feelings.  A majority of the time, people find it hard to articulate what is specifically on their mind.  They tend to start off using very general terms.  It is through the effort of asking certain types of questions that I help the client to paint a more vivid and vibrant painting of how they see the world.  It not only becomes clearer for me, but becomes, more importantly, clearer for them.

This process of verbally painting a picture reveals, maybe for the first time, the clients' underlying beliefs.  It is his beliefs that determine and define his expectations of how life is suppose to be.   As you know, a belief is simply a person's certainty about someone or something. For example, I am certain that the weather will be nice tomorrow; I am certain that martians are bad; I am certain that I can trust her etc. 

By getting a person to operationally define his beliefs, you discover his rule book.  That is, when someone specifically outlines what has to happen or not happen in order for his rules to be met.

When a person who is depressed clarifies his rules, you generally find his life situation does not come very close to meeting those rules.  Quite often I discover that the chance of meeting those rules is highly unlikely.  It is like setting a goal that you can never achieve.  You are setting yourself up for failure.

The key is to get the the client to redefine the rules or part of the rules by which he defines and lives his life.  The rules need to be realistic, flexible and tailored to his life and situation.  Only then will a person feel that they can affect change.

I've super-simplified the process in this short blog entry as to what I do to help people overcome their depression. For most cases of depression (excluding those due to imbalanced brain chemistry) if you can help a person redefine their rules and expand their constructive vocabulary, you can get them to climb out of their hole of depression and to start moving forward again.

Here are some further sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Depression_%28mood%29
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/depression.html
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression/complete-index.shtml

6. oktober 2009

Leading versus Managing: Two Distinct Skill-sets


A topic that comes up time and again is the difference between what is
defined as the role of a manager and what is defined as the role of a
leader. For those who sit outside of the corporate world, it may only
seem to be a trivial game in semantics. For those in the world of
organizations, the distinction between the two is not so trivial.
Many of my clients tend to be excellent managers. They are
knowledgeable and experienced in their fields of expertise. For most
of them it is a straight-forward process when it comes to managing
systems and tasks. Run process A to achieve outcome B.

As most business professional are aware there are two distinct skill-
sets - one for managing and one for leading. It is the latter that a
good majority of my clients have never had any formal training. It has
been a learn-as-you-go process. Time and again they have had to
reinvent the leadership wheel.

I think learning through experience is the fastest learning curve.
Sometimes though, gaining book-knowledge first and then applying it to
the real world can be a smoother road to learning. There may be as
many mistakes made along the way as there is with jumping into the
deep end. Although in this case, you have background theory that can
help to explain what happened.

I find that managers who want to improve their leadership skills don't
need to go hiking into a dense forest of leadership theories. What I
find is that it is tools they crave. Tools that are practical,
concrete and result specific.

From my experience and the feedback I've received from clients over
the years, these tools were, and are, the best way forward for them.
Tools of communication, psychology, delegation, decision-making and so
on.

The tools are simple to learn and are presented in a clear, step-by-
step format. In our coaching sessions, we take a current problem,
discuss it and apply the tool. The coaching session provides a forum
where they can practice, make mistakes, strategize, while building
skill and confidence.

Over time, managers pick up these more of the crucial tools and learn to use
them effectively. At some point, they have a tool box filled with a
collection of leadership tools. Over time, they become increasingly competent at applying them in different situations and circumstances.

Of course, there are always new tools to pick up at the hardware store.

Cordially
Jason W Birkevold Liem
phone: (+47) 957 66 460
email: MINDtalk@email.com
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4. oktober 2009

Focus, Feelings and Patterns of Questions

Focus Triggers Feelings

I want to begin this post with a simple question; in the last 30 minutes what have you, the reader, been focused on? Perhaps it was with a problem with work; great news you just received from a short call; or your kid asking you the same question for the hundredth time with a two-minute period. It could have been any number of things.

What we focus on directly determines what we feel. For example, an individual's manager gives some corrective feedback about taking more time to listen to people's side of an issue during the week's tactical meeting. John feels irritation with the feedback, which feeds into a sense of despise for his manager Kjetil also feels irritation, but it leads him to feel that his manager is trying to support him.

One thing is what we focus on, but what is also important to understand is the meaning we assign to that focus. We may wake up one Monday morning, look outside the bedroom window out onto a gray, cold, dark autumn morning. Some people's mood and motivation will be dampened and down, because of the what that particular mornings weather means to them. Some others will feel uplifted and looking forward to the day, because they reason with themselves that they will be inside the office most of the day engaged in an interesting project and the weather really has no significant relevance.

Learned Patterns

The meaning we assign to what we are focusing on at any particular moment is determined by our language, and more specifically by the questions we ask ourselves. We have a learned-pattern of questions that we ask ourselves time and time again. What do I mean?

Human being are pattern-based creatures. That is, almost everything we do, say, think, and feel in our day-to-day lives are based on learned patterns. We have an experience, we learn from that experience, and if repeated often enough it establishes a pattern (in some cases the event may only have to take place once to establish a learned pattern). For example, a person may as a child have gone up to a dog to pet it. The dog was scared and bit the child's hand. That person develops a pattern to avoid dogs. When her focus fall on a dog, she assigns a meaning that the dog is going to bite, and thus she avoids the dog. This is her pattern when it comes to dogs.

Questions as Learned-Patterns

We have a tendency to ask outselves a fixed pattern of questions depending on what we are focusing on. For simplicity's sake, focus can be categorized into three areas: what we can control; what we can influence; and what we can't control.

If our focus is on the areas of what we can control and influence, then the questions we ask oursevles tend to be constructive and opportunity-seeking in nature. For example, we may ask ourselves some of the following questions:
  • What can I learn from this?
  • How can I apply this to other areas of my life?
  • What can I do with this experience/information?
  • What won't I do next time? What will i do next time?
  • What do I need more of? What do I need less of?
  • This situation really blows, but where do I go from here?
These questions will tend to make us feel a number of resourceful feelings like a sense of control, oversight, certainty, growth, opportunity etc.

On the other hand, if our focus tends to be on those situations where have no-control, the questions we tend to ask ourselves tend to act as road blocks preventing from learning and moving forward. The questions tend to be negative of nature and endless-loops.
  • Why did this happen to me?
  • Why did events have to play out like this?
  • Why does this always affect me?
  • Why can't I find a solution?
  • What is wrong with me?
  • Why am I so useless and stupid?
Just writing these questions is depressing the hell out of me. Thankfully, I hardly ever do this anymore. For some people, this is their fixed pattern of questions. No wonder they tend to find themselves more often in an un-resourceful state than a resourceful one.

The questions we ask ourselves, depending on how we choose to focus on events, will have a direct influence on how we feel.

If you want to help someone, first find out what they are focusing on. Is it something they can control and/or influence or is it something where they have no-control? When they begin to describe the situation it is vital to pay attention, because they will tell you the questions they are asking themselves.

Important Note
The patterns people establish work on an unconscious level. Thus, the questions they routinely ask themselves are also being asked at an unconscious level. It is only by drawing their attention to this fact, that they can start to take control over their patterns. This awareness they then have the ability to change the questions they ask, the meaning they assign to an event and finally how they feel.

30. september 2009

Anthony Robbins & Psychology


I find that at least once a month I am going back to my collection of psychology text books from grad school to refresh my mind on a particular approach to counseling or clinical psychology. What usually triggers this can be simple curiosity or a client who presents a particular challenge.

I was not a student who followed any particular discipline or branch of psychology. I had, and still have, a rather eclectic interest in all things psychological. It was a couple of years after grad school that a buddy of mine gave me an Anthony Robbins archaic tape collection from the mid-80's. I listened to it and thought it was interesting enough, but it really didn't spark that intense of a curiosity.

It was not until a few years later that I was again reintroduced to Robbins by another friend who this time gave me an mp3 collection. By this time, Robbins had been in the business of helping people for 20 to 25 years. This time when I listened to him he caught my attention. He still had the same vitality and energy in his voice, but now it was tempered with experience and humility. I listened and I learned. What he had to say added very much to my schooling in psychology.

Back to my main point. When I return to my book case or my iTunes library, I find that I am listening more to Anthony Robbins. His way of helping people is highly-effective and compliments much that I learned studying clinical psychology.

So for any of you coaches out there (or anyone who is looking to change for the better), I would suggest listening to anything Robbins in the last decade or so.

I find listening to his audio products very engaging. As for seeing him live, I have not done that, yet. I don't think I would either. Why is that? It seems so evangelical and cult-ish. With the chanting and the cheering.

Perhaps with time my views will change. Until that time, I think I'll stick with the mp3s and the insight and useful skills and techniques for helping people.

28. september 2009

Planning & Running Effective Meetings

Managing Business Meetings

Meetings are a necessary part of everyone’s working life. Handled well, they present an opportunity to gather everyone together to review activities and plan new ones, or to examine a particular situation, agree on actions, and act in a coordinated manner. Handled badly, they can be boring and ineffectual. The most effective meetings are short and to the point, allowing people to get on with the rest of their day. This checklist offers advice for anyone who has to plan or chair a business meeting.

What You Need to Know

Aren’t there more time-efficient ways of making decisions?

Meetings may not always be the best use of people’s time and effort. If you are thinking of holding a meeting to discuss an issue related to your project, team, or department, give serious thought to whether gathering the attendees in one place is really the most efficient use of everyone’s time. There are some good alternatives to gathering everyone together for a meeting. For example, you could try:

  • conference calls or videoconferencing: if these are viable alternatives for you they offer a good way of holding a discussion without having to disrupt the attendees’ day too much;
  • an e-mail discussion: You can easily facilitate this by sending a message to all relevant parties. Your e-mail should set out the issue clearly, ask for a response, and give a deadline—and double-check that you’ve included everyone before sending it! Also, let people know whether you want their responses sent to you alone or to all the recipients.
  • If all else fails, and a face-to-face meeting seems to be the best and least unwieldy way of arranging a plan of action, prepare as much as you can in advance and delegate where appropriate.

What to Do

Control Your Invitation List

Good planning goes a long way in assuring a successful meeting, and an important first step is deciding who to invite. Remember that the most productive meetings are usually those with the fewest number of people attending, so try to limit your list by only inviting those who really need to be there. These will be people directly involved in the decisions that need to be made during the meeting, those significantly affected by the decisions, or those who have some specific knowledge to contribute. If the meeting is to cover a variety of issues and may be lengthy, consider asking people to drop in and out when their part of the agenda comes up.

Circulate Relevant Information Out to Attendees in a Timely Manner

Give everyone plenty of notice regarding the time and place of the meeting, and circulate a draft agenda outlining the topics to be discussed and the time limits assigned to each topic. A good agenda will clearly state the purpose of the meeting, so attendees will know why they’ve been called together, and what needs to be accomplished. Setting time limits is also a good idea, as it creates a healthy sense of urgency. By stipulating the start and finish time of the meeting, as well as setting time limits for each topic on the agenda (particularly important if you’re holding a lengthy meeting and asking people to drop in and out), you’ll encourage people to stay focused. Sticking to these fixed times is essential, of course, for this to work.

Other information you should provide for attendees prior to the meeting includes:

  • directions to the venue in case they haven’t been there before;
  • information on who else is attending (this will be particularly helpful if you’re going to be joined by people external to your company such as consultants, freelance contributors, or designers) ;
  • background information or documents that are relevant to the meeting. For example, if you’re going to discuss an overhaul of your product catalog, send everyone a copy of your existing brochure so they can look it over before the meeting. You might also include copies of similar publications whose style you admire, so people can get ideas about new ways of presenting your products.
  • your contact details and those of one other person in the office (such as your assistant or a coworker) in case of emergency.

Arrange Catering Requirements if Appropriate

If you’ve scheduled your meeting to take place over lunch, or if it will last more than a couple of hours, you’ll need to plan food and drink. Remember to ask all attendees whether they have any special dietary requirements. This will save a lot of time and stress on the day of the meeting. However, research shows that the best time to hold a meeting is just before lunch or toward the end of the day—this motivates attendees to focus on the agenda and keeps the meeting from running long.

Delegate Minute-Taking

It’s best to find someone other than yourself to take the minutes. You will want to be free to steer the meeting as appropriate. If that person is new to the project or issue you’re going to discuss, you might want to go over some relevant key words or acronyms so that he or she is not baffled by the jargon—you and the other attendees may be well versed in the relevant vocabulary, but you want to make sure there is no confusion on the part of the minute-taker.

Find and Prepare the Meeting Venue

Once you are sure about holding a meeting, the next step is to find an appropriate space for it. If your company has a reservation system for meeting rooms, get your plans in well in advance to make sure that you can get an appropriately sized room for the date and time you want. Plan early and don’t assume that the room you want will be available at the last minute.

As the meeting draws near, make sure that:

  • the room is clean and doesn’t contain unnecessary materials or supplies;
  • you have enough tables and chairs to accommodate everyone, and they are arranged to best suit your needs;
  • the flip chart, if you’re using one, has enough paper and pens ready;
  • there is enough light, heating, or ventilation for the time of day and year;
  • there are enough power outlets, and that they’re in the right place if you’re going to be using an overhead projector or laptop;
  • any equipment in the room is ready to use and is working properly.

Once your numbers are confirmed you can make further catering arrangements. If your company has a restaurant, arrange well in advance for someone to bring refreshments such as coffee and water to the meeting. If your organization is small or doesn’t have a catering facility, coworker or assistant to be prepared to go out to a nearby coffee shop or café to bring in what’s needed. Again, this will free you up to attend to other tasks.

Make Sure That Your Meeting will Proceed As Planned

Plan to arrive early on the day of the meeting, arrive in plenty of time so that you can double-check that everything is in place and ready to go. Once the attendees have arrived, there are a few steps to follow which will help things run smoothly:

  • begin on time.
  • welcome everyone, and briefly explain basic issues such as where the restrooms are located (particularly helpful for anyone who hasn’t been to your offices before) and what the catering arrangements are.
  • ask everyone to make sure they’ve turned off their cell phones and other devices so that the flow of discussion isn’t interrupted.
  • clearly state why the meeting is being held, what you hope to achieve in the meeting, the timescale, and finishing time.
  • explain the agenda of each item on the agenda.

Keep a Tight Rein

You will want to give everyone an opportunity to contribute to points raised on the agenda. At the same time, don’t forget that it’s your responsibility to make sure that you keep roughly on schedule (and on topic). For example:

  • make sure that attendees keep to one agenda point at a time;
  • summarize at appropriate intervals and restate agreed-upon points clearly (the person taking the minutes will be particularly grateful for this);
  • firmly but politely move the discussion forward if a subject has become exhausted.

Prevent the Meeting from Being Dominated By Others

One or two vociferous attendees can sometimes dominate a meeting, so in your role as chair you need to make sure that there is only one discussion at a time. Sometimes, people start their own “private” meetings during the main session. This may be limited to a few whispered asides, or involve notes being passed around the table, or even a full-blown separate discussion. Stop these diversions by addressing directly the people involved and asking them politely but assertively if there’s something they’d like to raise. For example, you could say: “If there are issues that people aren’t happy with, let’s raise them now before we go any further. We have a lot to get through today.”

Strategies for dealing with difficult people
Talkative people There will always be people who just like the sound of their own voice. In this case, you must be assertive enough to interject politely but firmly, reminding everyone of the agenda point you’re discussing and steering the discussion back to it. You may also want to recap how the meeting is progressing and remind attendees of your target finish time. If interruptions continue, suggest that the parties involved carry on their discussion on their own time.
Passionate peopleYour meeting may also be attended by people who feel very strongly about the issue under discussion and who may feel that others do not share their interest and commitment. Again, make sure that advocates of one particular position are given the chance to voice their point of view, but also that they give others the opportunity chance to express theirs. Interject as appropriate and summarize if you sense they’re about to repeat something. Remember that a meeting is a discussion with objectives, not an opportunity for attendees to rehearse an extended monologue.
Angry peopleTempers may flare if the topic you’re discussing is particularly contentious. When you sense that la situation is getting heated and insults rather than well-considered opinions are being traded, step in to defuse the tension. Suggest a break outside of the meeting room for 15 minutes or so, giving people time to calm down and assess what has happened. If voices are being raised, match your voice to the level of other people’s, then reduce the volume back down to a normal speaking pitch. This will allow the discussion to get back to a more stable footing.

Wrap It Up

Wrap up the meeting by thanking everyone for their attendance and contribution. If there is to be another meeting, let attendees know when it is to be held. If that can’t be arranged immediately, do so as soon as possible. This will encourage the attendees not to forget about the topics discussed the moment they leave the room.

Be Sure Everyone Is Clear on Any Follow-up Action Required

Clarify with the person taking the minutes that they need to write them up as soon as possible so that they can be distributed to all the attendees promptly. Most will only glance briefly at the meeting minutes, or refer back to them in order to locate a specific piece of information. This means that they need to be extremely concise and clear. The key things to note are:

  • agreed-upon actions dealing with the issues raised;
  • the people responsible for implementing them;
  • deadline or timing for interim reporting back;
  • date of next meeting if you agreed to arrange another one.

What to Avoid

You Procrastinate about the Meeting Preparation

You’re only going to make things more difficult for yourself by procrastinating. Although it may be hard to get started on planning your meeting, allow some extra time in case some of the arrangements don’t work out. It will be much more enjoyable to be able to relax a bit before things get going than to be anxiously rushing around tending to last-minute chores that should have been taken care of earlier.

You Don’t Delegate the Taking of Minutes

You’re not shirking responsibility if you ask someone else to take the meeting’s minutes for you. Remember that you don’t have to do everything. Finding someone whose sole responsibility will be to take minutes will free you up to make sure that the meeting starts and ends on time, is well organized, and achieves its objectives. This way you’ll have made everyone’s life a lot easier and you’ll also end up with a set of minutes that mean something.

You Allow the Meeting to Get Off Track

Don’t be afraid to move things along as appropriate if the meeting seems to be getting bogged down in one particular area. The other participants will be eager to finish on time and get on with the rest of their day, so, in your role as chair, shape the discussion and sustain the meeting’s impetus.

16. september 2009

Book Review: DEATH by Meeting

Blog contribution by Fletchboy's Follies

I have decided to try to do a review of the books I read, so you can get a preview of some of the things I read. I hope you find this useful. I will start with a book I just finished, and in a couple of days, I will do a review of a book I finished about a week ago. "DEATH by Meeting", I really enjoyed and think it will be a very useful book to anyone who has to run meetings in their work. The next book I review will be one I loved to hate for most of my reading of it. :-)

"DEATH by Meeting" is by Patrick Lencioni, and is written in the form of a "fable" to teach a new concept. For that reason, it is actually a pretty light read. If you are one who skips to the end to decide if they will like the book or not, you will get a complete misconception, since Lencioni recaps some of the key concepts taught by the fable in a couple of chapters at the end.

I won't steal any thunder from the book by telling any more details that to say that Lencioni advocates through the story, the idea of doing your meeting "on purpose". Don't expect one kind of meeting to be a "one-size-fits-all" affair. Conflict, drama and context are your friends in getting vital information onto the table in your meetings.

Lencioni's protagonist in the fable gets the executives to understand that the first 10 minutes of any meeting, like in a movie, will set the stage for the rest of the movie, and will probably determine whether people are engaged or bored by the rest of the piece. Meetings are no different.

The idea of doing meetings in varied ways to match the topic and purpose should NOT be news to any of us, but the fact is that in MOST organizations, a meeting is a meeting is a meeting. They are all the same and most of the participants would give their left arm to have an acceptable excuse to miss the meeting. Lencioni crafts a wonderful story to help executives grapple with some concepts that will help protect their organization from "DEATH by Meeting". I would encourage anyone who needs to run meetings in their role in their organization to read this book and implement as much as possible. It is a good read and makes some excellent points!

As a final point, I would say that my wife commented on the speed with which I finished this book... I usually plod carefully through non-fiction to make sure I get the point. Since Lencioni wrote this like a well-lubed work of fiction, I flew through it and couldn't get enough!

11. september 2009

How Groups Form, Conform, Then Warp Our Decision-Making, Productivity and Creativity

Blog contribution from Psyblog

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Discover the essentials of group psychology.

When we're in a group other people have an incredibly powerful effect on us. Groups can kill our creativity, inspire us to work harder, allow us to slack off, skew our decision-making and make us clam up.

The keys to understanding human behaviour—our lives as citizens, as workers, as friends—are in the research on group psychology, which PsyBlog has been exploring over the past few months.

This post provides an overview and you can follow the links to explore the experiments that reveal the power groups hold over us.

Formation, influence and leadership

The seeds of group behaviour are sown even before its members meet. Just knowing that some people are on 'our side' and others are not begins to shape our social identity. Group affiliation soon grows even stronger, though, bending our behaviour further, if we undergo an initiation rite. A rite as simple as reading rude words out loud can produce a measurable effect (see 10 rules that govern groups, #1, #2).

Once we are in a group it starts to shape us through conformity, pulling our attitudes and behaviour in line with others, threatening us with ostracism if we dare to rebel and, when facing rival groups, firing our competitive spirit (see 10 rules that govern groups, #3, #4, #10).

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We try to shape the group as well, perhaps by repeating our opinions. This helps to convince others we are voicing the majority view. Still, people are notoriously resistant to change. One way newcomers can influence groups is by displaying loyalty, toeing the line and by creating psychological distance from previous group affiliations.

A group takes its cue from a leader, but where do leaders come from? When leaders are allowed to emerge naturally from a group, they do so first by being the ultimate conformers, then later starting to lead in new directions (see 10 rules that govern groups, #6). Whether conforming or not, a sure sign of a leader is someone who talks first, and most often.

By the time groups are well-established chatter flows easily up and down the grapevine. This is not just rumour and suspicion, though, as research has found that grapevines are surprisingly accurate with up to 80% being true (see 10 rules that govern groups, #9, #6).

Productivity

The amount and quality of the work we do (or don't do) is regulated by the group. Sometimes groups have a social facilitation effect on performance, spurring us on to greater achievements. This is most likely to happen when our own contribution is obvious and when we are judged in comparison to others.

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At other times groups encourage social loafing, resulting in a drop in our productivity—sometimes by as much as 50%, perhaps more. This is likely to happen when it's easier to hide in the group, when we think the task isn't important and when our individual performance isn't being judged separately.

Psychologists have found that social loafing can be decreased by boosting group and task importance as well as decreasing the 'sucker effect': the feeling that others are slacking off.

Decision-making

One of the most important functions of modern groups is decision-making. The fates of our families, our corporations, even our nations, hang on our collective ability to make good decisions.

Unfortunately psychologists have found that groups suffer all kinds of biases and glitches that lead to poor choices. Happily, though, experiments have revealed some straightforward remedies for these failings.

Because group members are often very similar in background and values they are quick to adopt majority decisions. Psychologist call this groupthink. We can combat groupthink by nurturing authentic dissent. This is no mean feat as dissenters are often shunned because of the challenge they present. Support for dissenters needs to come from leaders.

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It seems only natural that groups will average out the preferences of its members, but psychologists have shown this often isn't true. In fact people are likely to display group polarization when together: initial preferences actually become exaggerated by group discussions. We can reduce this by avoiding homogeneity in group composition.

Finally, the most baffling of our behaviours in groups is our inability to share information effectively. Instead of revealing vital information known only to ourselves, time and again research has shown that we talk about things everyone already knows. We can reduce this counter-productive behaviour by recalling relevant information before meetings and ensuring each is aware of others' expertise.

Creativity

Creativity fosters economic growth, artistic innovation and technical breakthroughs, on all of which our society thrives. Groups, though, if badly organised, can stifle lofty ambitions.

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Psychologists have long known that the practice of 'brainstorming' is a sure road to fewer new ideas and less innovation than that produced when we work individually. In groups we loaf, feel anxious and our own ideas are soon forgotten while we listen to others.

It turns out that groups are better at evaluating ideas than they are at their generation. Despite its longevity, brainstorming is best avoided for its original purpose.

Even when we are physically distant from our groups they can still impede creativity through the unconscious standards they impose on their members. What psychologists call group norms can kill creativity by redefining it as mere conformity. It's no accident that some of the greatest breakthroughs in science and the arts have come from those working outside the orthodoxy. Sometimes it really is better to go it alone.

The power of groups

Groups may impose unwritten norms on us, warp or exaggerate our decisions, even dull our creativity, but these effects are often the flip side of forces that make groups strong. Despite the modern trend towards fractured neighbourhoods, families and workplaces, humanity cannot survive without banding together. We draw our psychological identity and strength from belonging, and groups provide us support when times are hard (see the research on mutual support groups).

We just need to be careful that leaders are chosen for the right reasons, that conformity doesn't trump reason, strangle creativity or limit our options. We must try to understand and respect the power that groups hold over us so that we can benefit from them rather than becoming their victims.

7. september 2009

Be Inspired - Photos by Veronika Pinke



Creative and super professional nature photography by Veronika Pinke, female photographer, based in Germany. Beautiful pictures with absolutely amazing colors.































Photographer: Veronika Pinke
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